Materialistic flattery in vain

She offered her whole life in dedication to the upbringing and well being of her family. Now you feel
that what you are about to read is the same old lament of a housewife. No, your are wrong, continue
and find out.
Son – what the hell is this mother, cant you just let somethings be. Cant you just let my wife be the way
she wants to be. What do you want? You cannot cook lunch and dinner for us. Fine we will find a maid
to do that for you. Is that it? What else do you want? What is all this daily problem of you both? Why
cant we just live in peace. It was far better than when you were at our native place.
Daughter in law – and above all, why do you have to tell every bit of what is happening in our family to
your daughters? What are they going to do? Are they going to help us in any way? Nowadays your son is
also not earning enough. All the money that is being spent on our marriage loans and carrying on the
household chores is being drained out of my account and still I have to hear all this. The so lots of money
that you give to you daughters when they come evey time at our place, have you ever thought where
does it comes from? We are giving it. Now what else do you want of me mother-in law? I go out to work
and earn money isnt that enough for you? Why do you even expect me to come to kitchen. Doing all the
household chores will be my choice and I wont be forced to work and I don’t want to hear anything
about this anymore otherwise I’ll leave this house and you and your son may live happily ever after. I
think then will you remain happy.
Mother (sobbing in deep pain after listening all this) – son I don’t want anything other than your
happiness, if you are happy in the way you want me to live, I will change my ways and live according to
you both. I promise!
Son – again a melodrama has started. Why do you have to do all this? And why are my sisters are
getting involved in our house soo much?
Mother- sorry son…
Son (interrupting) – if you are not happy here, we send you back to our native place.
Mother (sobbing and crying) – no son. I am more than happy here, I wont go back there, I will live the
way you want me to. I am sorry.
Mother leaves and talks to her sister on phone - … I told them, I will change according to them. But now
nothing is the same good and happy as it used to be. (cries) no one talks to me, not even my own son.
(sobs) nothing hurts me more than what have I done to my sons happiness, nowadays he just comes and
goes, all his playfullness and smiling face have gone. I don’t find my this behaviour apt. I think I was the
one who was wrong. We have a lot of money but I tell you money cannot buy everything. There is an
abominable lull at our place and that will kill me mentally someday, if I am like this what effects will it be
having on my son, after work that he comes, he needs to rest, but I don’t offer him an atmosphere good
enough to. I will do the needfull.

Now if you ponder on the above conversation you will find that being the very rich family and having
nothing to be unhappy for. All they needed was a liitle bit of understanding that would have solved such
a trivial matter. Nothing in the family is big till we understand that we are all different humans and
differences of interest are boung to occur but, cant we just sit and talk it through? Is it so difficult to do
that? And is fighting and saying bad words the only way out? Just think and comment you views.

Ability to never give up

What a day it is? Won't you say this? And when saying this, aren’t you loving the day in spite of all the
despair that you carry inside you. You may be angry or filled with angst, you may have an intense
emotion in you telling to stop, but do you? We all continue living, and tell me is that continuity, not in
itself the biggest sign of love. Yes, the love that you hold in yourself for your soul. The very existence of
this universe lies in loving and being loved. So what are we doing since the beginning of our tenure
here? We are a loving day in and day out. And the day we stop, we cease to exist, physically or mentally.
But I tell you in doing that also, we are loving ourselves in some of the other ways. With our death, this
emotion dies. But with every breath we are taking in, we are promising ourselves to love ourselves till
we do exist. If we die out mentally, as they say, we are again in this deep emotion called to love with
ourselves, by hiding from the world to not enter into an alliance that may in near future, as we already
have made our mind, will surely cause agony.
In short, we cannot in any way stop loving, the whole world evolved on this very emotional and still
revolves around the same feeling. We may not love others, but in doing that also we are secretly loving
ourselves. Love never leaves us, neither can we leave it. We are humans and we are different for the
emotions that we carry in us, they may be for us or for our fellow beings. In any way, we are never weary
of love. So I would actually ask you, what will you call love? Is it the ability or the inability?
I think by now you may have got your answer, that it is actually the inbuilt ability of yours to never give
up. It may be not giving up on ourselves or on others. In most cases, we are in love at least with
ourselves.
What is an inability? Are you actually unable to do anything? If you think clearly and pragmatically, there is
exactly nothing you cannot do so at least yourself. To just get the emotion of love, I think that’s near to
nothing, it's like a bird sitting in front of food grain and calling it an impossible task to eat it. It's actually
naïve to think love as an impossible emotion to achieve. It actually is inherited, the way you do to your
siblings, the way you do to your mother, your father and your close neighbors and relatives, it just
comes in you because you are related, now it may change its intensity in the course of time but still its
there and it will again come into play for your better someone and her family members when you marry
her. It is a legacy that you will again pass on to your children and they will to their children and so on.
And in telling this I should add that, this you will do with proud. So tell me now, an emotion that you so
proudly pass on and do to your fellow beings, how can it be an inability?
All that is said above applies to your special someone also. It is all in you, you are the master. You can
and you only cannot. But to never give up on someone, is surely an ability of yours, not an inability. How
are you unable to do something you are born with or that which is in you from always. Love of any kind
can never be judged as an inability, let us not in any way try to belittle this emotion, so pure, and holding
a sign which can be measured on the Richter scale of human survival.

Perseverance is power

All sorts of promises that were made and the trust that was built on a mortgage of those teary eyes
went in vain and all he has now is just a ring gifted to him by himself in the name of that
an indifferent soul that has touched his, in the ways that no one in this lifetime will ever dare to.
Why dare to might be a question, the answer to that is he himself. The agonizing pain of this
intentionally broken relation has made him so protective about his broken heart that to reach to it
is a real deal now. He punishes his heart for breaking so easily and his soul for getting carried
away so easily and all he does now is inflicting the increasing amounts of pain on himself
because that pain is his real friend now.
Likewise many people in life try to befriend the wrong ones, maybe the wrong feelings. But the
question is why are we so dumb to get the fact that, changes are inevitable and the way someone
else has changed now, we might have been in the same place, with our own made-up reasons and
excuses. What could have been being a thing which is just a perception of choice, because you get
accustomed to the pain that the probable future, that may not turn true now, given the facts
inflicts on your soul? Your heart likes it. Because then we are trying to slow ourselves, the time
that we might have spent in doing the constructive has now transformed into us doing the
destruction. The destruction that may not seem destructive now, but for sure will do to your
future.
One similarity in all the success stories that you hear is how a person went on, no matter what.
This is called perseverance. It is important that you have this in your life. Because without this
there is a sure shot horrible tomorrow, the tomorrow that may not seem likely now. The irony is
we never get to hear the failure stories, and so you should make yours the one that will surely be
heard. For this, you should always have an ambitious mindset. The same mindset you had when
you were chasing the king or queen of your dreams and the kind of will you showed to yourself
following that path of making them yours. You never cared much for any obstacle that may have
arisen. In fact, you always had a solution in place for anything and everything. You showed what
not, actually all the qualities of being a winner.
And believe me, you won then. You were victorious maybe for the time for which you were
together. But what do winners do? Do they just leave behind all that they did to achieve that
goal? They produce stories out of the struggles they did and tell to others as education. The same
way you should never leave the lessons you learned for when you fought for your love. You
should keep them in mind always and apply for whenever it is possible. You should show the
same power of perseverance no matter what the situation may arise, because you were a winner
then and thus, this increases your chances of being the one again and proving yourself that, pain
is what a coward would feel for every failure, winners come waging a war with all sorts of
solutions at hand and realize the ultimate pleasure of winning.

Like the waves

It is rightly said “what you think is what you shall become”, in this context we are overburdened
with stories, the reality you are in now, will also become a fascinating story for someone in near
future. And we listen, write, whisper, these stories. Not all the stories are a happy ending. Some
are really sad to hear, some are so shattering that we are unable to go through them. What about
your story? Do you want your story to be loved or hated? Do you want your story to have a
peaceful and happy ending? Do you want that people remember you for a great warrior or a
loser? Well, that depends on you. It all depends on how you take that which life has to offer you.
Life is a battle. It a story where your character needs a constant change, it needs amendments.
You need to continue or rectify something. You need to be what the situation needs of you. But
sometimes we mistakenly try to do, the exact opposite of the expected.

In life, we are expected to fight. What our parents and the world would be proud of? It is not a
coward but a fighter. What if the waves go silent, will you enjoy going to a beach then? Will you
like the utter calm of the ocean or the constant noise that it makes while producing waves?
Any story is interesting till it has many turning points, your needs too. Do you expect the hero of
the story to sit back and cry for whatever bad is happening or will you like him to fight the battle,
no matter the result? What if there were no Thanos? What if, the Avengers were just sitting back
and pitying what has happened. The movie won’t have made the records. Same way every day
you are provided a new Thanos to deal with, that makes your story worth your living. And the
living should be in such a way that you do not fall having to fight Thanos, that would be cowardly
and no one likes a coward. You should instead deal bravely, with all your might, to battle it and
defeat it. Now it is not that you will have a win, win situation. You may fail, you may fall. But is
it the end, do you want a sad ending? No, right! Therefore, the thing you should do is fall, get up
and fight again. And never sit back, for you are a warrior. You are the wave of the ocean that
people love to have the sight of. You are the one who is determined to never stop and always aim
for the land. Whether or not you win but you should set an example for others to never lose
hope. That is what life is all about. You should be like that wave which never leaves the hope of
reaching the land, it rises falls but never stops. Difficult or impossible, your work shall be to run
for it at least. Because it is not your success that makes your parents happy but it is you want for
life and your will to struggle for your dreams.

Make it your mantra, to fight and never be in a forlorn. May you be the rising sun that never
stops shining, it shines through clouds and smiles through the eclipses, may you be that bird that
runs and falls and ultimately fly in the sky, may you be the ant that never stops taking his food to
its destination, may you be the river that’s flows and flows until it meets the sea, may you be the
the wind that blows non-stop and may you win this battle of life staying strong on your morals and
values.

Impulse of gratitude

We are pathetic, lethargic, ungrateful beings. Are we such aforesaid wonderful things? Or is it
different with some and not so different from others? Whatever it may be, we never would want
to be called all of that. We know we came into this world to not be infamous at least. Then why
are we filled with neglect for others? What we are is because what the world thinks of us. They
say you are what you are. But does that hold true always? We may say big things about ourselves
and we can be in an ultimate diaspora. But the truth is we are humans and we tend to in some of
the other ways look ourselves in others eyes. And we are inclined to manage just that so beautiful
picture of ourselves in the eyes of others and we do anything to achieve just that.
If you don’t rhyme with me here, then tell me don’t you believe in film stars? Aren’t you a big
fan of cricket? Many of us fall into either of the two categories. To talk of the film starts, we are
ultimately talking about glamour. And what is glamour? It is nothing but what our eyes feast on.
It is what our eyes become easy prey to. It is what we enjoy watching. It is what our eyes
would probably like. That is what glamour is all about. Coming to cricket, today even they are
taking up glamour to make easy money. It becomes easy with all the fame they have to attract
and fool audiences.
What they actually do is not fool us. They just follow what we like to make of them. They try to
fit in what we would like to see them in. they are never remiss us, or the market trends. In fact
today the whole strategy behind most of the start-ups is market trends. They try to cater exactly
what people would want of them. They become successful only when they can do this job
wonderfully. Today analysts are paid high enough to maintain the top notch in the trending
businesses.
Briefly, I would say we should just move on with the world. The way to flourish is just that. And
to do that we should be showing gratitude for either applause or criticism. We should never
dismiss a negative thought about us or our work, instead, we should be happy that people are
making time to improve us. That we should do in our daily lives. All the criticism should be
aptly put to leverages. We should never miss a chance on improving and not to forget at the same
time that criticism is not always a failure. There are all sorts of people, those that will be happy
for you, those that will envy you, those that will try to stop you. Then there will be moments
when you will be shattered of all the bad comments coming. All you should do in all these
situations is feel grateful and obliged that people are making time just for you. And criticism
never goes in vain, it will always help you improve in “n” number of ways that you might not be
knowing.
On this, I would like to put forth a question for you, the answers to which you may drop in the
comments section. The question is – Which of your friend will you value more, “the criticizer”
or “The Extoller” and why? I will provide the answer to you in the coming article.

Fulcrums of variance

What if you knew already about your rights and your duties? What if you were in advance aware
of the principle on which all of the universes, at least yourself should be working? The world
would suddenly appear a better and less confusing to live in, right?
Sometimes it happens that our relatives help us getting a good job and a good career. And we
end up thinking that they did a favor that needs to be repaid. Is this your thinking too? Are you
into such clutches set forth by those witty fellow beings? Well, I would say you should never end
up thinking like this, for the assistance they provided is instead their responsibility. Now, this
may sound indifferent, but that is what makes all the difference. Take, for example, your parents
do everything to give you a good education and life. Now providing education is their duty that
they are fulfilling and that is your basic right. Sometimes we even end up thinking this in an
opposite manner. We are made to think that the education our parents imparted us was never
their duty, they did a favor on us. I will say this very thinking of yours is a rebuttal of the basic
natural laws. As a parent, it becomes their duty to impart their child basic education. And it
becomes our duty to help them through their advanced years, the way they helped us during our
childhood.
We all call our governments to provide for our basic needs and the same way it is the duty of the
governors of our family to provide us education. Governors do not only include parents but our
all the relatives. Thus it becomes their duty to assist us the way they can and believe me in
getting the help you are not getting burdened with favors. You can never be.
If a person you know, maybe your relative, your friend or say an acquaintance, is at a position
that they can help you aggrandize you, then they, by all means, should do that. That is their duty
and it your right. the problem is we are made to think in an antagonistic way to this fact.
We talk of nepotism, but I tell you nepotism doesn’t work well for the undeserving. If you are
deserving, you will be granted favor by the Gods themselves and if you are not, you will
surely find that for yourself.
The world needs to take a deep breath and you are the world. You need not believe whatever they
may say. You can have your own reasons for anything and everything. This is again your basic
right and it is the duty of the world to provide you some slack on that. Because this is where you
are relieved of so many times in life you get free to think, speak and act. You can fly into the world
of possibilities that await your flap and that you can do when you are away from all worldly
nuisance and that is the point of all the positive change that you can bring in your life. That is
where all the difference is made. That is the fulcrum of all variance.

Artless elimination of disdain

Sitting back because you think you might not win. Now that is a serious problem many of us are
facing in our day to day life. We think we might not, and easily give up. But are we this easy to
break? Are we so weak? Are we so not into testing ourselves?

To overcome your fears you have to face them, you have to fight this beautiful battle in your
mind to let apprehensions rest in peace. It is when they rest in peace than will you be able to live
in peace for the rest of your life. In life, we make many decisions every day and the only thing we
should consider while making decisions is that they should never be any day driven by our fears.
It is although important to consider your weaknesses and strengths before embarking on any
journey in our lives. But it is also important that the decision that this particular part of you is
your weakness and that particular part is your strength should be made by knowing them for real
and not just because you have been told such and such a thing by your elders or even say your
parents. We are been told ever since we got to comprehend in true sense the language of our
people that our parents or say some of our close elderly relatives will be able to tell us what is
good or bad for us. I would say that is not always true. There may be some instances in our lives
may be the important parts in our life on which our future might depend may go flawed in some
or the other way. We should thus just try to at least intervene in a matter concerning ourselves as a
person and should not just hand ourselves totally on our parents and shrewd elderly. We should
try and make our decisions on our own. Because sooner or later we will have to live our life on
our own because the sad reality is everyone withers away. We have to be on our own someday.
Why not start this today? Why wait for others to start telling us to take your own care?

If we do not start taking risks today how will we be able to list out our strengths and weaknesses?

And if we are not equipped with this wit now, how will we be able to do anything in our future?

Its rightfully said that “time and tide wait for no man”. Thus with this perspective at hand we
should concoct the remedy starting from now. And that remedy my friend is not easy to have. It
requires for you to attempt things on your own, in that process know yourself better than anyone
could ever, thus get to know your strengths and weaknesses and finally use these to be victorious
on your fears.

Coming from a very well known political family, Pratyush was the only son of the then chief
minister. As he was born after 10 years of marriage he was bought up with utmost care. He
would have anything and everything that he wished to have and this was a highly pampered kid.
But all this care made him grow too dumb to face the world the way his father would have
wanted him to. He wanted a child who was capable enough to be the new face of his political
party and be the next candidate for the upcoming elections. Pratyush was equally willing to
participate in the elections, actually due to the peer pressure, he thought it will be a silver spoon
in his mouth and if he wins, it would be the only feat he would ever want to achieve in his career.

Everything was into place and his father started working for the elections and soon a lot of
meetings started happening at their place of residence. All he could do was listen to all those
people and never could have his independent opinion, even if he had, he didn’t have the nerve to
vocalize it. He thought whatever his views were, they were too amateur to be uttered. Many days
passed, at first he thought, he could with time, get used to all of this and whatever his friends told
will hold true. But soon to his disappointment nothing turned into the ways he thought it would.
All of that asked of him a lot. He was asked to invest himself a lot more than he had imagined.
And that lot was not easy to offer. Actually to offer he had nothing. He gained enough
knowledge about the functioning of the party but was too weak to put forth his conclusions. He
had not the heart to speak up in front of the public.

Once he was asked to deliver a speech at a goodwill party hosted by his father at his residence
for all the prominent leaders of the party. At first, he took it for granted but as the day approached
he went into shivers, he started having dreams and turned up really nervous on his big day.
With all the motivation that he got from his friends and others, he kick-started the speech better
then what he thought in his dreams but soon he started feeling sick, he started sweating and
shivers went down his knees, he was forced to end up his speech midway and he couldn’t take
that humiliation. Following days were full of scariest dreams that he had and mixed reviews from
all those who were in his full support initially.

All his dreams of leading his state came to a standstill and he decided to withdraw from the
political party to get himself ready to face this hurdle of life. He went on a holiday, where he met
a group of engineering students. All they could talk of was the resentment they have about their
careers, that is surely in the ditch and still, they were enjoying and were happy. They were not sitting
in a corner of the world has known the harsh realities. Instead, they all had the warrior in
them, who gave them the zeal to live and fight for it.

All of this opened his eyes and he came back with the enthusiasm to at least fight because the
real deal with him was “he himself”. It was not the fear of the public he had, it was the lack of
confidence. And who could win that confidence back, it is thyself? He himself was the reason for
his disdain and it took him literally nothing to know this. He stood up again and fought in
himself, by himself, for himself and whatever the results of the elections might turn up. He will
be an improved version of himself, a version he would be proud of, no matter what.

Likewise, many resolutions of life become clearer when we know ourselves better and when we
fight in ourselves for our own amelioration. And believe me it is not a work of art, it is totally
artless. You don’t need a motivator or a counselor or a, what not. You just need yourself. Give
yourself time, everything will fall in place. You will get over the obnoxious feeling of disdain.
You will have all the confidence in the world to do what not. Eliminate disdain, you are
everything you will ever need, the fire is in you, you just need to see it, feel it and use it in your
enhancement. Believe in yourself. You are the hero and the villain, the choice is yours.

The stain will ever remain

They say you should forget your past and just stride for a better future. But the question is can
anyone just forget that what has happened in their past? Can these philosophers do the same
when it comes to them? Whatever they may say or say the world may say. No one in this world
can ever, just flush their past and move forward. No one can overcome that recurrent knock of
the happenings of the past. 

Why do they say as you grow up you are equipped with the wisdom to lead life. If to forget your
past was the real wisdom, how can someone be equipped and with what? People should highlight
that silver lining in between what to keep of your past as legacy to gain wisdom to lead your life
and that which you should just leave to the past. And then he talks of positivity, they say you
should seek for positivity in anything that happens in life, then if there is positivity in everything
that happens to us, then where is that silver lining that asks us to leave somethings and carry the
others for a good future. Why can’t we just get the fact that the stain of the past will ever remain,
no matter what.

World talks according to what suits a situation and what proves their point and that too just for the
instance. No one wants to believe that they can be wrong at a particular thing whether or not it is
their niche. If we humans were so perfect in the work that we do, then why do we end up doing
mistakes, why does a well to do airlines had to shut operations, why once a billionaire had to fled
the country due to debts, why a business once flourishing ends up in bankruptcy. In short, we
have to work according to what the situation demands of us and thus it is important that we don’t
forget what was our past. Good or bad every other happening is worth pondering on and keeping
its teaching with us to assist us in any way possible.

What is all this research about, today the world is going mad about research? There is research in
medical, engineering, paleontology, economics and which field is not touched by the notion of
research because that is what keeps us updated and keeps us from mistakes that we might have
otherwise committed. Our life is in itself is research that we do, then how can we forget
something and keep something. The significance of any research work is when all the pros and
cons are considered and not a single thing is left unnoticed. The significance of our life totally
depends on all of the happenings in the past because that is what will surely shape us and our
thinking like humans.

At some point, the world speaks of leaving bitter experiences into the past and at the same time
#metoo has taken the world with a storm, now here I am not pointing out anything flawed with
this movement, for I very well know that people get stricken by a different kind of loo every
another season, these are all waves of different kinds that may end up in good or bad results, that is
for sure no one knows, but for the point that is being highlighted here #metoo serves as a good
example. With this movement, people in large numbers are opening up about their bitter
experiences from the past, those people who once were taught not to speak up of such matters

and just to forget them for their own good. Ask them were they ever able to just cast off such
happenings or are they just the assembled version of those shattered pieces that they were, in the
past, when that thing happened? The answer would be probably according to what the world
wants them to speak up again. Sometime back the world was against speaking such things, so
everyone kept quiet, now the world wants them to speak up, so they have risen from hibernation.
But ask them were they able to sleep in peace anyway?

They say just move on. I say just meet a lover who was deeply attached to each other once. The
then love of her life, ask her did she ever forget that charmer? The answer would be no. If you
are the one, answer once for your own true self? Have you forgotten that special someone?
We are nothing but the summed up versions of all that has happened to us. When we embark
upon a holiday, we never forget the starting point or the path that we took to reach our place of
stay. One who is successful will always boast upon the path of his ultimate success and there she
will say more about her bitter experiences than the good ones. The question is why so? Yes,
because no one really forgets. No one really moves on.

That was supposed a bad day, you had an awful exchange of strong words with your special
someone can you just sleep and let the thing go? And then you just wake up like a new kid into
the world? All these things sound simple and with time some people, I would say, adopt this very
method to stay calm. But deep down, if you would like to see, there will always be an empty
space that needed to be filled up with kind words. And here is where all the drift towards parallel
universe starts. We get drifted away and it is not long enough when we realize that we lost an
important soul.

Significance of each and everyone’s life depends on what we become and the one we become is
not by letting go of the bad experiences and keeping the good experiences. It is rather how we deal
now and what we take from that which has now become our part. If we are to find positivity in
something than what is wrong in keeping it with us? And if we are to find negativity in
something then I would say what is wrong in keeping that too. Everything that happens in life is
to be deemed important and nothing I would say should just stay in the past because you actually
cannot.

You keep that bag full of all the happenings with you, whether you believe it or not. You are
what you are and all of that comes with you from the life that you have already elapsed. And that
which you are about to live will definitely have a tinge of your past. The world says to run away
from your past, I say don’t do that, face it, then will it not become your demon, in fact, you will
be happy having it in your subconscious. Tell me are you happy with having things dealt with or
with those that are left for the time being? Well, you know the answer.
With all the research that you always do in your subconscious, you will become a pro in dealing
with the situations in life. You will feel the power that it bestows upon you. You will feel rich

and worthy. You will be all that you as a person will ever need. You will become a real hero, the
one man army that you always vouched for in you.

A dive into divinity

What did she say? Does it even matter? At some point in life, we actually resort to staying numb
whatever the world may become. We try to become a “touch me not” plant and that is what in
the language of the world today is what is called maturity. What according to you is being
mature? Is it keeping quiet when you know your words could have made a difference? Or even if
they did not make a difference, why do you not want to say your viewpoint. Why do we resort to
keeping quiet? Why do we let things just go? Why are we becoming so uninterested?

World and all of its work is not art. The world works according to its own fancies. It is like
the fashion industry, something comes up and people are mad about it and then it is just a matter of
time when it vanishes and something else takes its place. But I tell you nothing ever vanishes,
like the fashion of today, is all inspired by what we called outdated thing. Everything comes back
in some of the other forms. Same is with life if today you are keeping quiet, trying not to say
when you could have. You are all fine for the moment but soon you are involved and some time
elapses when you realize you are actually trapped. It is said what goes around comes around, it
even happens, and you are never spared.

This trend of keeping your emotions to yourself and not speaking up has taken such deep roots in
our society that we are now trying to get out of its clutches. We are already making our children
join the personality development classes, some extreme cases are being even referred to the
psychiatrists. Why is that so, why have we given up on letting ourselves out? Why are we
resorting to being what we are not?

The concept of court and evidence would wither away if we try not to speak for what was right
and what should have seen the light of the day. All the politics that is taking place, the
democracy that we are in would all be of no sense if people try to stay low key. Nothing would
matter exactly if there was no one to speak up.

The Mahabharata gives out a fine example of Bhishma Pitamaha who would rather stay quiet
and say nothing during the epic scene where Draupadi is stripped of her saree in front of the
whole of public. Being the elder of the family, what he could have done was just speak up to stop
the nonsense that was being done. If he would have stopped that thing to happen then, the epic
war of Kurukshetra might not have taken place. All we can say now is just look at the costs of
not speaking at the rightful time.

With time imbibing this habit of not speaking much we all have become so dumb to deal with.
Nowadays people are being recruited for the job only when they are able to speak in front of
people and if they can present themselves. We have even lost these things. Education is imparted
so that you can speak up, stand in front of the world, not sit with your lips tied for some of the
other reason. The language we all learn we learn to speak up not to stay quiet. Then why are we
resorting to these awkward trends of so-called mature human beings?

Let us all make an oath today to speak up for the truth. Let's take a dive into the divine power that
our language imparts us. Let us try to feel the power of expression. Let us all not run away from
what could have been dealt with easily with kind words. Words can be killers, they can be healers. A
kind word of gratitude can be enough for your father to feel lively after the nerve breaking
amount of work he does for you in bringing you up. Small praise for the food your mother
prepared for you can bring in her the amount of satisfaction that you can never imagine. Let's not
be constipated on words, let us use them wisely. Using your language and the perfect words is
also an art, let us all be artistic.

It is been rightfully said that” all worlds a stage” and we all play our part. How can we justify our
character without expressing ourselves? That is why it is important for all of us to feel the divine
power our language imparts to us all. Let us not waste that power, let us not get entangled in the
fancies of today's world. Instead, let us make our own fancy – “speaking up”. Let us speak
because that is what makes us different. Let us not be faked by the indifferent meaning of
maturity that the world today has framed. We have enough common sense to know when are we
being fooled off. we are retrospectively moving and brushing down our own personalities. We
can mind our own business and we should do that, but we should never run away from our
business. We of all the creations of God have been given this gift that we can vocalize. We
should thus for the sake of God vocalize and not run from whatever!

Stand to humanize the world!

What do you think makes you a better human being than any other soul respiring on this planet?
What makes you different from them? And do you know the cost of being better or different?
Are you even ready to pay that price? More than anything are you even willing to do what makes
you a better one, or are you just happy in the way you happen to be?

Well, there are many questions that could be answered if you take a deep look into the inspiring
life of Mohan, a dairy farmer by profession who lived in a village just adjacent to the city that
was known for its ever-flourishing dairy business. Almost all of the people in the village, were in
one or the other way, engaged in dairy farming and that made the village what it was.

But as the time progressed and the business in the adjacent city increased there came many more
competitors of the then functioning dairy company and with the involvement of so many biggies
in the business, the demand for raw materials increased. The farmers were asked to yield more
milk and in return, they would be granted better money and the promise of a better future for their
family and coming generations. Thoughts kind of this, lured almost all of the dairy farmers in
that village. The demands rose but it was not in hand with the supply. The farmers gave out the
highest amounts of milk supply that they possibly could. For this they stopped selling milk in the
homes of village and city, instead, they sold it to those companies for better money.

Companies had to expand their business and for that, they hired a team of experts that will teach
the farmers on the different techniques to increase the production of milk. Many seminars took
place in the city in which the villagers were provided with money to attend. And hence they all with
the whole of the family attended and learned various ways of increasing milk yields. These ways
to think of were very hard on cattle and at first, the villagers were mostly resistant to apply such
harsh ways but as time passed and seeing the amount of money that could be made out of
those techniques, farmers in large numbers began applying the modern ways of cattle rearing
except for Mohan, he was resistant to the notions of modern ways of increasing milk yields
which were largely dependent on certain hormonal injections, abstaining the calf to drink milk,
keeping the calf away from the mother, artificial insemination and what not. All of this never
satisfied Mohan, in fact, he went furious about those techniques and even tried to convince them
friends, relatives and known people otherwise. All his trials were in vain as the appetite for money
has hit all the farmers so hard that they forgot about the plight they were knowingly or
unknowingly putting their long reared animal into, the same animal that has bought to them a lot
of glory.

For Mohan it was not all about money, he was more emotionally attached to the cattle. He felt
like those animals are his family, the calf that would be born, Mohan would take proper care of it
like he would for his own child. It was fine till the cow offers him milk, but to get it in wrongful
ways just to earn money and put cow’s health at risk was just not done.


He did what he could but looking at the progress the others were making out the new ways
of production, he had other thoughts. But as and when he would have a look at the face of the
cattle that he reared, he just couldn’t make his mind to let them through all the inhumane ways of
rearing the cattle for milk.

He was satisfied with what he had and all he did was, hope for better, but only if it was possible
in a humane way, but to his failure, he couldn’t find a way. At times there were a lot of problems
in the family, but Mohan tackled in other ways that were at his disposal.

As time passed he became more and more confident about his ways. He now wanted to set
an example for future generations and wanted to pass on the legacy of cattle rearing to the
generations to come, that which the people of his generations have lost to time. For some such
reasons he never gave up on the primitive ways of rearing cattle. He was questioned upon by his
family for being stubborn about not giving up on older ways when he can make an easy fortune out
of the newer ways, but nothing affected him.

He knew what he did, and what he can be sufficient enough. If he wanted to have a brighter
future he could adopt another business but he could never end up by being a monster to his
lifelong friend, his cattle. And he did exactly the same, he started his own business of fetching
fodder for cow and with ever-increasing incomes, the villagers became more and more dependent.
They gave up on the older ways of taking their cattle to distant pasture lands, instead, they bought
fodder from Mohan and fed the cattle at the sheds and that added to the advantage for Mohan.
His fodder business expanded, but he reared his cattle the way he always did and now in the
words of his daughter who is a lawyer by profession when asked who you consider your idol in
life during her convocation and why? She says- “I know I have taken this path towards helping
people get justice, but my idol, my hero, the real lawyer and an epitome of justice is my father,
who, no matter what, took stand for his view of how trade should be done and how in that way
justice be served to all the souls that we co-exist with. There were many sleepless nights that he
passed due to the insecurities of the future and the money he could have made resorting to the
modern ways of trade. But he was determined not to walk into the clutches of greed and make
the life of his cattle, bitter. He was not for once shattered by the atrocities he had to face in his life
for his choices. No matter what the odds, he believed in what was righteous and he served justice
to the cattle that has served him all through his life and had been there since he has seen the light
of the day. He managed to keep the sanctity of his trade and cattle and proved to the world that to
be happy you don’t need just money but the will power to stand for your beliefs and that is what
it takes to humanize the world and to bring justice to our mother earth and its crops. It just takes
a single soul to stand for what is right, it just takes that light in you that makes all the things fall
in place.

World In a Nutshell

She was all polite and calm and knew the most subtle ways of treating the kids when in school. Some teachers are harsh but she was not the one from that crowd. She was a true picture of a priest and at the same time an educator. Life brings all sorts of challenges and I think she met in that convent one of the biggest challenges her life could offer. Kindness, patience and an urge to always learn from even the smallest of the things were some of the assets that she was born with I think, because I tell you the way she handled those rapscallions of the class of 2008 in the 9th standard, was an epitome of compassion any human being on this earth could show.

She was an English and a social studies teacher and I guess you will resonate with me in feeling bored with just the names of these subjects. And the same was the plight of those in that class where Sister Brigette tried her level best to teach these subjects. Now children find some or the other way to just pass their time in such classes. There is a twist here, as these kids were offered a time pass in the form of such sleek, gentle and kind teacher to teach them.

Sister Brigette was new to that area in the north of India, she came from the south and was almost 45 years in age. She did what she did and knew exactly how to teach kids. But with the promotions and the need for a good teacher she was suddenly offered to teach in 9th standard. Very happy she was on the day she arrived at that convent, but little did she knew of the real hurdle that was awaiting her and that which will give her a lot to take with her.

Started the days of teaching and suddenly that very studious class of students got bored with the daily lectures on democratic politics, history, and geography. Now they started noticing the ways of Sister Brigette that were too indifferent and were a lot more fun for those kids. Her ways of looking in the notebook with her spectacles resting on the highest part of her head, her ways of scolding by making a different kind of funny faces, all were noted and were made fun of. Suddenly students began enjoying her lectures. They made fun of nearly everything about her, which was all fine with her as she didn’t understand as to why students in her class seem to continuously giggle and chat around. All was fine till one day this nuisance was way beyond the levels she could bear. All this became a pain in her knees with the days to follow as she was unable to even maintain discipline in the class even after expelling the most notorious students. She went on to find ways of taming those lads but to her failure, she couldn’t find any, these lads became so much aware of her ways that even the fear of getting scolded by the principal of the convent didn’t give them shivers. Nothing affected them.
Sister Brigette was the epitome of patience, calmness, and perseverance. She never gave up and was totally devoted to teaching and making her lads good enough to stand out in front of the world. She went on teaching the way she could, at times scolding and even being harsh, but I tell you she couldn’t be so harsh as her very nature never permitted her to be that.

One day on a bright Sunday when she was preparing for her lectures she went on to think about the recurrent thought that always went on in her subconscious. Those questions that what is making those people just laugh their way out of her class and what could she probably do to handle the situation. All that she pondered the whole day was her class and students. She went with an unusually fair smile on the next day to the class and did what she did always. She went on teaching, with students giggling and making fun of her ways. The thing she did this time was she never scolded anyone. The whole day went and the same way the whole week passed by and she never shouted which became a routine of her in recent days. Even the students were worried as to what has happened to Sister suddenly. 

That courage and the will power in her to learn from even the slightest and the most unimportant things in life gave her just what she needed at that point in time. She started noticing even the minute details that the kids in her class reflected on in any way. She tried to notice herself through the eyes of her students and got to know the facts that were behind all that was happening. She knew that in order to maintain peace in her classroom and to maintain the discipline, she has to change her ways. She realized that there was a lacking in her behavior that was causing all the havoc. Instead of taking all that was happening on her heart. She paved a way for her own revival as a teacher. She tried to learn what was wrong with her, more than learning she tried to rectify that which was an error and was always thankful to the lord for coming to her life in the form of those kids that showed her that being a nun or just by getting all that is there to know about your religion or your profession doesn’t make you a perfect human being.

You don’t become educated by just learning and writing the exams in schools or in colleges, it is what you understand of what you read and it is how transparent you can be by imbibing in you that, which so many of us just read and pass. Highest standards of education are not in getting the highest grades but it is how civilized one can be in any situation. Civilized behavior comes from compassion and belonging.

Albeit sister Brigette changed, but what if she thought otherwise? She would have managed otherwise but could it bring joy to her. Getting to know her demons and winning over them gave her joy, peace and made her feel the importance of learning every day no matter what the age or profession, she proved that even a teacher could learn from her students. She educated her students and in the process she educated herself. Life is but a process. You can find obscenity everywhere and nowhere, you can find optimism everywhere and nowhere. It is up to you, how you look at your life. It is up to you, what you make of it. 

You can read me, you can find “n” number of counselors, you can talk to your friends or relatives or go to the internet and find out various ways to tackle your daily problems. But I tell you none of this would help you if you yourself don’t want to help yourself. You can be a problem or a solution. The situation will always demand the heroine in you, the fighter in you. And what are your weapons, your weapon is how well you use your education, not falling into biases or whims but following what is the most righteous thing to do? Now you may ask what is the most righteous thing to do? I would say, it is looking into yourself first, I would say, by finding out positivity in every situation and I would say in a nutshell “fit in to stand out.”

Staying Away From Scrutiny!

Staying away from scrutiny!

To stay away from scrutiny, is it even possible? Take yourself as an example, can you pass your
single day without even commenting on the ways of your colleagues, friends, relatives, or even
family members or say anyone you meet just strolling down the street? The answer is a big “NO”
probably. And you need not worry about this because it's not just you, it's not just the person
sitting beside you, or its not just me but we are the family of crores of people who engage in this
mind-blowing activity in daily life and knowingly or unknowingly become a victim of this
unruly character of humankind.


Yes, you might be doing this crime whilst even reading this but you can always safeguard
yourself from being a victim. I will say it not an easy task, its well said in our kinds of literature that to get something you need to lose something, here, maybe you will lose or gain but yes you will
do one courageous thing of living your life for once without apprehending about what would the
world say, and this to do my friend is not an easy task, it takes what it takes and sometimes it
takes even more than it ever offers. But life is worth this adventure of knowing your capability of
walking into this leaving that very support of blindfold of society made rules and experiencing
life with your both the eyes wide open.


In light of this, I will narrate to you the story of pritika, a housewife and a beautician in a
small town. She was married and had two beautiful daughters. She was a natural at beautifying
women and once a client came to her beauty parlor would never in her entire life visit any
other. Well in the language of some of her clients she had this as a god gifted and yes she was
really very good at her work. But being good is not all, at least not for pritika. Right from her
childhood she had these big dreams of luxurious life and that too not granted by her father or
her husband but life made luxurious by her own efforts. Yes, she was ambitious, she possessed
all the will power in the world to live up to her dreams.
All was good, she started expanding her business, now she had two assistants at her parlor
which made her earn all the fortune that a child in her could ever imagine. But is this the very
end of all of that? Cant, she expands more and become a part of the ever increasing businesses that
she saw flourishing on the streets of big cities, in those tall fat malls that she roamed around in
summers with her girls? Is that it? Well it might have been, but to keep her assistants at bay from
opening a business of their own and cutting her clients, which would have cost her a lot in the
long run, she always tried to explore her field more and get something new to offer them, to keep
an edge over them and thus making them stay with her for as long as it would be possible.

For the very same she started doing her research and tried very hard to remain updated with the
ever-changing fashion industry and its trends. This was possible only by attending all sorts of
seminars that came up in big cities. Her husband was albeit a strong supporter of her work but
was unable to accompany her to those distant lands that she had to now frequently visit to remain
updated. For him staying back at his place and going out with his friends was the biggest
pleasure that he didn’t want to miss. At first, she tried to understand but as the time passed they
had a lot of quarrels on the same matter and that made the home not a happy place to live in. now
it may not look that important a topic to have a harsh talk on but I tell you we as humans in long

run do need that support for which we all long, otherwise you tell why would people ever marry.
We need support to flourish to do anything in life, and this support is what she needed from him
and she was not wrong at wanting to have that. As a husband, it was his duty to be what she
wanted and she didn’t ask for a lot. All she wanted was a little bit of his time and efforts to be
with her in her struggle for a better future for them and their two beautiful little girls.
But as the time passed and those quarrels now silenced she knew it was all her till one day during
the seminar she met a guy who was charming as hell. For her age doesn’t provide for her to just
fall for charm. They started meeting in every other seminar that they attended and to her surprise, he was all that was missing in her husband and that for which she was going mad literally, that
care support and a feeling of homeliness. Having known that she has a beautiful family she was
not willing to cross that line for the fear of ruining her world of peace. Peace, a beautiful family
really? Yes, it was kind of this before but with time all this wore out and all that remained was
a routine of being a mother and a wife. This routine was killing her from inside.
One day, all broke after having struggled with her routine life which was offering her nothing in
return, she tried to be disloyal to her husband, her kids, and the society and as this word
society came in the picture all her dreams of taking a step forward came to a standstill. She
couldn’t go forward and follow her heart as all sorts of thoughts of scrutiny flashed in front of
her. All she could think was what will her daughters think of her? What will society do to her
daughters? Will her daughters ever accept her in this way? What will happen to that family that
she was happy with? Can’t she do something that worked for almost 18 years still works for her?
And the list goes as far as one can think, I would especially say as far as a mother, daughter, a
wife can think. But as I told you already, pritika was ambitious and she had all the will power in
the world to achieve that has crossed her mind.
She took this decision of getting divorced from her husband and start a new happy life with this
guy that she met in those seminars and went on with it. And I tell you it was not that easy as it
has been said here by me and read by you. It was a big blow to her. All sorts of talks about her
character, her being disloyal, her being way too forward and getting brainwashed with the
whims that go on in the fashion industry. This was not all when her daughter said to her
something out of anger that her ears even couldn’t believe. She shattered, as for strong women
as she was it is ok that people say anything about you. But a mother will always look for herself
in her child she would always want her child the least to think of her without the bias of any kind.
Pritika was determined and thought that maybe at some age her daughters will be able to
understand her, that marriage is not only about procreating and making a family or say just fit
into the pre-laid whims of the world. It is more about being there for each other and supporting
each other unconditionally, because that is what is called love and which makes a family happy
enough to live and spend the whole life with.
Taking a deep breath one day she left all behind and went on to search for that missing emotion
of happiness and the feeling of togetherness with his newly found love. It was not easy, she gave
up her kids, her beauty parlor, her friends there, her clients, the place that made her what she is
today and a lot of money for her daughters and their upbringing. And as of now, she is really

happy in her life, she has again made a good fortune with her talent and as they said her god gift.
Initially she missed on her so many long made clients but today her clients miss her and many of
those ladies who are not happy in their life just think about her and due to this world that they
live in, cannot live up to themselves and their life as they cannot stay away from scrutiny, can
you? It takes a lot of courage to be happy, the question is, do you have that?

Scars on her legs

‘Give me a reason mom’, she said.
Myra, don’t make me feel that educating you and fighting for the same was a wrong decision on
my part shouted mother angrily.
What makes you say so? She said, just because I have fallen in love with someone who you and
your people don’t think fit, doesn’t prove anything.
Listening to all this came her father and there was a pin drop silence for a moment after which
she said, “Dad please once, for my sake meet him, you will”…” just go to your room,” said her
father interrupting her and she saying nothing took herself to her room and cuddled her only
the friend left in her own home, her pillow and wept till she fell asleep.

Next day Myra came out of her room and sat at the dining table to have her favorite morning
tea in which she had lost all her interest. She lost the taste for everything that did matter her before.
Sitting in front of her favorite cup of tea and staring in the cup she thought about the love her
parents showered on her every day till she came up with the story of ‘Paritosh’, the love of her
life. Now all she wanted was to experience his love for her by getting married to him. This dream
of her was not at all shared by her parents on grounds that Paritosh was a lower caste individual
and that, she should be married by their will, not hers. She sat there and stared and waited for
someone to console her, to listen to her, to become a companion, but to her dismay, she couldn’t
find a soul who would want to keep her out of her misery and who would ask her parents to love
her again selflessly, the way they did before.

For her parents were teachers in a government school she was left all alone in her house when
they left for school till she left for her clinic. That was the time when she used to talk to Paritosh
and made plans on how they would elope if they were not permitted to marry. But what? Was it a
righteous thing to do? She asked to herself looking at the mirror. For whatever she did or may
do, she can’t be so selfish as to flee with her partner and leave her parents just like that. Okay,
she fell in love but that is not a decision that we make in our lives, that thing just happens. But to
marry or not is a decision that she had a veto on. And she knew that she wants to marry Paritosh
with all her heart. But what of her parents? After explaining and trying to talk to her parents for
almost six long months she was shattered for she could not find a single ray of hope by the
behavior of her parents, and at times she was fearful as to what in all this rage and situation will
be the decision of her parents about her life.

“About her life”, yes you read correctly. This is myras life and that should work according to the
decisions she makes for herself, but as an educated girl, she also gave so much liberty to her
parents to intervene as she already knew that this has been their ways since her childhood.
Starting from her school to the types of clothes she would wear, the type of hairdo she will have,
and to the type of friends, she would have, the kind of movies that she will watch and the variety

of books that she will read, all was taken care of by her parents, and now to take such a big step
in her life how can she ask of her parents to not be a part of the same. All she asked for was the
due consideration of her feelings for Paritosh and himself as a person. She wanted her parents to
look into this without the bias of culture and society that they belong to. She wanted her parents to
take one decision in their life without the interference of the societal norms; moreover, she
wanted them to at least consider her mature enough to make some decisions on her own.
After all the talks that were going in nowhere, one day, the very first time in her life she shouted
at her parents and asked them why did you make me study when I still can’t take a decision about
my life on my own? That all of her studies is useless when her own parents don’t think her to be
capable enough to decide what is good and what is bad for her.

Now that nothing else worked she found her companion in a notepad that is always kept at her
table in her clinic. She wrote all sorts of things that came to her mind and just tore that paper of
and threw it in a dustbin, that way she was at peace with all that was happening and all that she
wanted to do and undo.

Now to keep a close eye on her activities she was visited by her father every day at her clinic.
This was not enough for her father that he asked her to open her clinic only for two hours in the
morning and one hour in the evening and ask the patients in an emergency to pay a visit at her home
instead. Everything was acceptable but not this. She did all she could to get freedom from these
timely constraints but all she had in replies was silence and no replies.

On top of all that was happening, her parents made a commitment to marry her to their friend’s
son who was a shopkeeper in the same place she lived. To her, this news came as a horror. At
once she went to her parents to ask for the reason for such a hasty resolution to which her father
replied that, her elder sister is coming tomorrow to take her to shop for the wedding
ceremony that is fixed to happen in a week. Crying and in anger, she shouted, ‘what made you do
this’? ‘Why was I not told about all of this’? To this, her father came up and slapped her
exclaiming that we gave you life and all you can do now is leave us some sort of respect to living
our life happily and die in content. To listen to this from her father took her to a place from where
there was no escape. She never thought that loving someone and realizing that was so difficult in
the world whose very pillars were loved itself. She couldn’t comprehend the loose ends of every
question that she asked from her parents and moreover she could not comprehend as to what
made her parents change so drastically overnight and that how can they be so selfish and
consumed up by the desire to try and fit into the annals of the society that they live in. What
happened to those ears that waited for her tongue to woggle? what happened to those warm arms
of her father? What happened to that ever comforting lap of her mother? Why is this desire of
hers making her parents so uncomfortable who always looked forward to fulfilling her each and
every wish? Above all, she couldn’t realize the difference between the “individual for society” or
“society for individual”.


All she knew was that she failed her love, she failed her parents for her love and that she failed
herself. For a girl to enter into the womanhood like this took a great toll on her mental health
from which it was difficult to recover and that her marriage lasted only for months. She however
recuperated and continued to practice and live her life elsewhere, where she was all free.
Whatever she did with her life was all her decision and for that she never blamed anyone but she
also has something in mind that asks her why all that happened? And what for? what did it give
to anyone who was involved or not? Except for misery and pain that was inflicted on all the
people, it gave peace to no one. Then why do we do what we do? Why can’t we sit back and
come up with the resolutions that are in everyone’s favor and above all why can’t we understand
that some things just happen and that every feeling of every individual should be duly considered
and should be respected?

Whatever she might be doing, the scars on her souls and on those tiny legs, when she ran to her
parent's arm in her childhood will stay forever and ever. These scars will not only form the basis of
herself changing as an individual but will also change the way people look at marriage and to
what extent caste of an individual should play a role in this holy alliance.

Age is just a number!

A tiger never stops hunting for food, a bee never stops sucking on nectar, a peacock never stops dancing, a bird never stops flying. Wait! Are we missing out on someone? Oh yes! Humans.  We, humans, do age and it is but a reality but the way animal kingdom follows its basic activities why do we stop loving, after all, love is what makes us different from other species on earth. Now I am not saying that a cow doesn’t love it calf or to any mother in the whole of the animal kingdom but not getting deep into this topic I will say they are bound by emotions that come naturally while you become a mother and procreate. As is also said human is a social animal and being social comes with caring and loving for each other than why do we stop doing just this and why are we regulated by some preset age-related boundaries. First of all who made these boundaries? They were but individuals of our own species. But with the lapse of time, we all have learned about freedom and choosing something on our free will. Then why do we are made a victim of social stigma related to love or say marrying at an age that is not deemed rational by our society? Why can’t we be modern in thinking that loving someone can never be guided by our age? It is a feeling that we are born with and that we must always do no matter what our age is.
There are many known examples of people getting out of this constricted bubble of thinking and have found love no matter their age. Kareena Kapoor Khan, Abhishek Bachchan, Priyanka Chopra Jonas and there is but a galaxy of some such individuals and believe me they come from all walks of life and profession. They may be lawyers, politicians, doctors, and anyone. I have to say this because the examples given above are all actors and we all know very well, the stereotypes coming with being an actor. But I will just use them as examples because they are very well known. All I would say is you should just believe in your vision and everything becomes clear. People will say, and their work is but speaking all shit, that you can never even think of. But is your love so weak that it can’t even go through this battle of worldly mediocrity?
It all started with a big bang and yet now the earth has not stopped providing us. Then why do we think so much before starting and get going? Why do we think of retiring from what we do or what is our basic character as humans? Like earth and all of its life, we as humans, should be much more believing in chances and, missing out on opportunities just for the sake of age and what will the society call this? is but highly uneducated of you. Because you may come up with all sorts of mediocre reasons but it will take just some courage to realize love once, maybe with a person who doesn’t suit the standards of your society and that thing I tell you will become the best part of your life that you will ever live. It will be the best of all the adventures that you have ever had.

I choose to forgive you

I choose to forgive you!

As humans you are bound to make mistakes and that you do every other minute of every other day. But what if you are not forgiven for what you do? What if you are accounted for every wrong you do? Yes, this may lead you ending up all alone and miserable. Now people say that they are fine being solitary and that it never makes them miserable. But I tell you the truth, the very existence of human life depends on their civilization and human is but a social animal. Human civilization was never made by people sitting in oblivion but by their association and to have that association work, the only mantra is forgiven and forget.

Now mistake is a very subjective topic. What you see as a mistake might be just another norm in someone elses  life. As a child,d you commit so many mistakes everyday but do your parents ever become even late in forgiving you? The answer would be “NO” probably.

In our live,s we learn many more things from our parents than we can ever learn from our schools that is because right from our childhood we have been seeing them and with time they become our idols. We try and follow the same footsteps, then the question is what makes us not forgive and forget others as our parents usually do with us? Why cant we follow our idol in that way too?

However big a mistake can be, we can always do one thing is forgiving because that way we are actually liberating ourselves from the continuous nuisance that the subconscious recycling of that thing causes in us and the resulting anxiety that our mind become prey to. So whats the point in keeping the crap that ultimately harms you in your mind?

Above all, what has happened is past and we should always keep our present at priority by not letting our past influence our present in a wrongful manner. Let your present be free of any unpleasantness from the past. Yes, we all are into an ongoing process and our past has a role to play in the person we become today or shall be in our near future. But we can always as humans decide on what kind of experience should really be shaping us and keeping all the negatives for the future has never helped anyone. To cry on we can have enough topics every other second and be full of anguish and disgust but do we really want that, or do we just want to move on with the world? So lets take a pledge and cut some slack on ourselves by forgiving and most importantly forgetting others.

I hope you now have enough reasons to say it out loud with me – “I choose to forgive you!”  

A Soulmate

A relationship not depending merely upon the exchange of rings but that of thoughts, bond transparency of which surpasses mere knot of some fabric, a reliance that doesn't necessarily need a declaration in the name of religion or exchange of vows and that which is beyond the made-up concepts of humans. A person with whom your relationship looks up for the above-mentioned horizons can be your soulmate.

Now not every bond you share is your soulmate and not always will that person be your better half. This person can be anyone with whom you realize your self-worth, with whom you feel homely, the one who energizes you beyond words and become your strength to face the world. And believe me, not everyone is blessed with a soulmate but if you have one in your life, savor their bond. They are a priceless possession, never lose them.

Nowadays we offer ever decreasing time schedules for the people who really care for us. We tend to befall for the people who aren’t really worth our time. Like, take our own mothers for instance, as they will understand us and we, knowing this fact try to belittle their importance every other day. We become generalized dealing with them and that becomes our biggest fault because we start seeing the world keeping this fact in mind and we try to fit everyone in the standards of our mother. We make wrong choices in the process.

We become real late in deciding on what really matters us, in this aspect of life we as humans have become a tortoise. We ask for more, our expectations with generous people like our mother's increases. We should realize that it’s a world of giving and take and that’s but a harsh reality.
Thus to have a soulmate kind of a bond we need to become one and as they say, the study starts at home. So try not generalizing people on the basis of their availability, be happy in what is being offered, don’t want for what will never be yours, value what you already have in your life, let these soulmates of yours not slip away from your hand in the run for what may never end up as one.

Believe me, you are always surrounded by ample opportunities you need to just be the one to get one.

A Pearl of Wisdom.

Out of 7.7 billion people in this world, we hardly know 0.0001% of the people but still, the impact of 0.0001% teaches a lot in our way from life to death. Life is all about meeting new peoples and keep learning something from there experiences or from your experiences with them. We are so worried about our own self-esteem that we forget the way of getting up is only by pulling yourself down.

For every path you cross will have sides like every coin. Grasp the pros, leave the cons behind and move on, It will help you to be equipped with a pearl of wisdom which will allow you to eliminate such personalities from your life in future.

Let the doors open with a warm welcome for every personality and filter out the personalities with a pearl of wisdom weapon. You will get harmed once but that pearl of wisdom protect you for the rest of your life. 

Thus by getting enlightened in the process of filtration you eventually prepare yourself for many possibilities that will occur in life. You just need to embrace yourself to go through it like a saw blade cuts up through the wood.

A son to be a father.

He was the youngest and the most nutorious children in the family. Growing up away from his parents he had the freedom to live his live on his rules, being independent comes with responsibility and nonetheless it was really hard for him not indulge in any kind of habits.

And it happened, he got indulged in all the bad things, got addicted to bad habits which directly effected his studies for which his father has sent him away from his home.

Every young person have the curiosity to try everything and it's just a matter of second when that curiosity can turn into an addiction.

Life was falling apart, grades were gradually decreasing, friends become enemies. It was the time when God had plan for him, he met with a new friend who helpmed to get away from that addiction and focus on his carrier. He eneded up finishing his graduation with decent grades and was about to get the hold on the steering wheel of his life but it happened again, the addiction took over him again and this time God had no plan. He has to fight, fight hard. Days turned into months, months into year and he had reached a point where the only solution was to quit this world. His parents and all the loved ones were getting away, falling apart a world of dreams can demise everyone's heart.

Yes, correct! When that heart breadown, your mind grasps all the control of your body and its a matter of fact that you can take it towards the right path.

Niether or less, he got it on right track.

Consclusion : The light is right behind that last stone your are about to remove.