Materialistic flattery in vain

She offered her whole life in dedication to the upbringing and well being of her family. Now you feel
that what you are about to read is the same old lament of a housewife. No, your are wrong, continue
and find out.
Son – what the hell is this mother, cant you just let somethings be. Cant you just let my wife be the way
she wants to be. What do you want? You cannot cook lunch and dinner for us. Fine we will find a maid
to do that for you. Is that it? What else do you want? What is all this daily problem of you both? Why
cant we just live in peace. It was far better than when you were at our native place.
Daughter in law – and above all, why do you have to tell every bit of what is happening in our family to
your daughters? What are they going to do? Are they going to help us in any way? Nowadays your son is
also not earning enough. All the money that is being spent on our marriage loans and carrying on the
household chores is being drained out of my account and still I have to hear all this. The so lots of money
that you give to you daughters when they come evey time at our place, have you ever thought where
does it comes from? We are giving it. Now what else do you want of me mother-in law? I go out to work
and earn money isnt that enough for you? Why do you even expect me to come to kitchen. Doing all the
household chores will be my choice and I wont be forced to work and I don’t want to hear anything
about this anymore otherwise I’ll leave this house and you and your son may live happily ever after. I
think then will you remain happy.
Mother (sobbing in deep pain after listening all this) – son I don’t want anything other than your
happiness, if you are happy in the way you want me to live, I will change my ways and live according to
you both. I promise!
Son – again a melodrama has started. Why do you have to do all this? And why are my sisters are
getting involved in our house soo much?
Mother- sorry son…
Son (interrupting) – if you are not happy here, we send you back to our native place.
Mother (sobbing and crying) – no son. I am more than happy here, I wont go back there, I will live the
way you want me to. I am sorry.
Mother leaves and talks to her sister on phone - … I told them, I will change according to them. But now
nothing is the same good and happy as it used to be. (cries) no one talks to me, not even my own son.
(sobs) nothing hurts me more than what have I done to my sons happiness, nowadays he just comes and
goes, all his playfullness and smiling face have gone. I don’t find my this behaviour apt. I think I was the
one who was wrong. We have a lot of money but I tell you money cannot buy everything. There is an
abominable lull at our place and that will kill me mentally someday, if I am like this what effects will it be
having on my son, after work that he comes, he needs to rest, but I don’t offer him an atmosphere good
enough to. I will do the needfull.

Now if you ponder on the above conversation you will find that being the very rich family and having
nothing to be unhappy for. All they needed was a liitle bit of understanding that would have solved such
a trivial matter. Nothing in the family is big till we understand that we are all different humans and
differences of interest are boung to occur but, cant we just sit and talk it through? Is it so difficult to do
that? And is fighting and saying bad words the only way out? Just think and comment you views.

Ability to never give up

What a day it is? Won't you say this? And when saying this, aren’t you loving the day in spite of all the
despair that you carry inside you. You may be angry or filled with angst, you may have an intense
emotion in you telling to stop, but do you? We all continue living, and tell me is that continuity, not in
itself the biggest sign of love. Yes, the love that you hold in yourself for your soul. The very existence of
this universe lies in loving and being loved. So what are we doing since the beginning of our tenure
here? We are a loving day in and day out. And the day we stop, we cease to exist, physically or mentally.
But I tell you in doing that also, we are loving ourselves in some of the other ways. With our death, this
emotion dies. But with every breath we are taking in, we are promising ourselves to love ourselves till
we do exist. If we die out mentally, as they say, we are again in this deep emotion called to love with
ourselves, by hiding from the world to not enter into an alliance that may in near future, as we already
have made our mind, will surely cause agony.
In short, we cannot in any way stop loving, the whole world evolved on this very emotional and still
revolves around the same feeling. We may not love others, but in doing that also we are secretly loving
ourselves. Love never leaves us, neither can we leave it. We are humans and we are different for the
emotions that we carry in us, they may be for us or for our fellow beings. In any way, we are never weary
of love. So I would actually ask you, what will you call love? Is it the ability or the inability?
I think by now you may have got your answer, that it is actually the inbuilt ability of yours to never give
up. It may be not giving up on ourselves or on others. In most cases, we are in love at least with
ourselves.
What is an inability? Are you actually unable to do anything? If you think clearly and pragmatically, there is
exactly nothing you cannot do so at least yourself. To just get the emotion of love, I think that’s near to
nothing, it's like a bird sitting in front of food grain and calling it an impossible task to eat it. It's actually
naïve to think love as an impossible emotion to achieve. It actually is inherited, the way you do to your
siblings, the way you do to your mother, your father and your close neighbors and relatives, it just
comes in you because you are related, now it may change its intensity in the course of time but still its
there and it will again come into play for your better someone and her family members when you marry
her. It is a legacy that you will again pass on to your children and they will to their children and so on.
And in telling this I should add that, this you will do with proud. So tell me now, an emotion that you so
proudly pass on and do to your fellow beings, how can it be an inability?
All that is said above applies to your special someone also. It is all in you, you are the master. You can
and you only cannot. But to never give up on someone, is surely an ability of yours, not an inability. How
are you unable to do something you are born with or that which is in you from always. Love of any kind
can never be judged as an inability, let us not in any way try to belittle this emotion, so pure, and holding
a sign which can be measured on the Richter scale of human survival.

Perseverance is power

All sorts of promises that were made and the trust that was built on a mortgage of those teary eyes
went in vain and all he has now is just a ring gifted to him by himself in the name of that
an indifferent soul that has touched his, in the ways that no one in this lifetime will ever dare to.
Why dare to might be a question, the answer to that is he himself. The agonizing pain of this
intentionally broken relation has made him so protective about his broken heart that to reach to it
is a real deal now. He punishes his heart for breaking so easily and his soul for getting carried
away so easily and all he does now is inflicting the increasing amounts of pain on himself
because that pain is his real friend now.
Likewise many people in life try to befriend the wrong ones, maybe the wrong feelings. But the
question is why are we so dumb to get the fact that, changes are inevitable and the way someone
else has changed now, we might have been in the same place, with our own made-up reasons and
excuses. What could have been being a thing which is just a perception of choice, because you get
accustomed to the pain that the probable future, that may not turn true now, given the facts
inflicts on your soul? Your heart likes it. Because then we are trying to slow ourselves, the time
that we might have spent in doing the constructive has now transformed into us doing the
destruction. The destruction that may not seem destructive now, but for sure will do to your
future.
One similarity in all the success stories that you hear is how a person went on, no matter what.
This is called perseverance. It is important that you have this in your life. Because without this
there is a sure shot horrible tomorrow, the tomorrow that may not seem likely now. The irony is
we never get to hear the failure stories, and so you should make yours the one that will surely be
heard. For this, you should always have an ambitious mindset. The same mindset you had when
you were chasing the king or queen of your dreams and the kind of will you showed to yourself
following that path of making them yours. You never cared much for any obstacle that may have
arisen. In fact, you always had a solution in place for anything and everything. You showed what
not, actually all the qualities of being a winner.
And believe me, you won then. You were victorious maybe for the time for which you were
together. But what do winners do? Do they just leave behind all that they did to achieve that
goal? They produce stories out of the struggles they did and tell to others as education. The same
way you should never leave the lessons you learned for when you fought for your love. You
should keep them in mind always and apply for whenever it is possible. You should show the
same power of perseverance no matter what the situation may arise, because you were a winner
then and thus, this increases your chances of being the one again and proving yourself that, pain
is what a coward would feel for every failure, winners come waging a war with all sorts of
solutions at hand and realize the ultimate pleasure of winning.

Like the waves

It is rightly said “what you think is what you shall become”, in this context we are overburdened
with stories, the reality you are in now, will also become a fascinating story for someone in near
future. And we listen, write, whisper, these stories. Not all the stories are a happy ending. Some
are really sad to hear, some are so shattering that we are unable to go through them. What about
your story? Do you want your story to be loved or hated? Do you want your story to have a
peaceful and happy ending? Do you want that people remember you for a great warrior or a
loser? Well, that depends on you. It all depends on how you take that which life has to offer you.
Life is a battle. It a story where your character needs a constant change, it needs amendments.
You need to continue or rectify something. You need to be what the situation needs of you. But
sometimes we mistakenly try to do, the exact opposite of the expected.

In life, we are expected to fight. What our parents and the world would be proud of? It is not a
coward but a fighter. What if the waves go silent, will you enjoy going to a beach then? Will you
like the utter calm of the ocean or the constant noise that it makes while producing waves?
Any story is interesting till it has many turning points, your needs too. Do you expect the hero of
the story to sit back and cry for whatever bad is happening or will you like him to fight the battle,
no matter the result? What if there were no Thanos? What if, the Avengers were just sitting back
and pitying what has happened. The movie won’t have made the records. Same way every day
you are provided a new Thanos to deal with, that makes your story worth your living. And the
living should be in such a way that you do not fall having to fight Thanos, that would be cowardly
and no one likes a coward. You should instead deal bravely, with all your might, to battle it and
defeat it. Now it is not that you will have a win, win situation. You may fail, you may fall. But is
it the end, do you want a sad ending? No, right! Therefore, the thing you should do is fall, get up
and fight again. And never sit back, for you are a warrior. You are the wave of the ocean that
people love to have the sight of. You are the one who is determined to never stop and always aim
for the land. Whether or not you win but you should set an example for others to never lose
hope. That is what life is all about. You should be like that wave which never leaves the hope of
reaching the land, it rises falls but never stops. Difficult or impossible, your work shall be to run
for it at least. Because it is not your success that makes your parents happy but it is you want for
life and your will to struggle for your dreams.

Make it your mantra, to fight and never be in a forlorn. May you be the rising sun that never
stops shining, it shines through clouds and smiles through the eclipses, may you be that bird that
runs and falls and ultimately fly in the sky, may you be the ant that never stops taking his food to
its destination, may you be the river that’s flows and flows until it meets the sea, may you be the
the wind that blows non-stop and may you win this battle of life staying strong on your morals and
values.

Impulse of gratitude

We are pathetic, lethargic, ungrateful beings. Are we such aforesaid wonderful things? Or is it
different with some and not so different from others? Whatever it may be, we never would want
to be called all of that. We know we came into this world to not be infamous at least. Then why
are we filled with neglect for others? What we are is because what the world thinks of us. They
say you are what you are. But does that hold true always? We may say big things about ourselves
and we can be in an ultimate diaspora. But the truth is we are humans and we tend to in some of
the other ways look ourselves in others eyes. And we are inclined to manage just that so beautiful
picture of ourselves in the eyes of others and we do anything to achieve just that.
If you don’t rhyme with me here, then tell me don’t you believe in film stars? Aren’t you a big
fan of cricket? Many of us fall into either of the two categories. To talk of the film starts, we are
ultimately talking about glamour. And what is glamour? It is nothing but what our eyes feast on.
It is what our eyes become easy prey to. It is what we enjoy watching. It is what our eyes
would probably like. That is what glamour is all about. Coming to cricket, today even they are
taking up glamour to make easy money. It becomes easy with all the fame they have to attract
and fool audiences.
What they actually do is not fool us. They just follow what we like to make of them. They try to
fit in what we would like to see them in. they are never remiss us, or the market trends. In fact
today the whole strategy behind most of the start-ups is market trends. They try to cater exactly
what people would want of them. They become successful only when they can do this job
wonderfully. Today analysts are paid high enough to maintain the top notch in the trending
businesses.
Briefly, I would say we should just move on with the world. The way to flourish is just that. And
to do that we should be showing gratitude for either applause or criticism. We should never
dismiss a negative thought about us or our work, instead, we should be happy that people are
making time to improve us. That we should do in our daily lives. All the criticism should be
aptly put to leverages. We should never miss a chance on improving and not to forget at the same
time that criticism is not always a failure. There are all sorts of people, those that will be happy
for you, those that will envy you, those that will try to stop you. Then there will be moments
when you will be shattered of all the bad comments coming. All you should do in all these
situations is feel grateful and obliged that people are making time just for you. And criticism
never goes in vain, it will always help you improve in “n” number of ways that you might not be
knowing.
On this, I would like to put forth a question for you, the answers to which you may drop in the
comments section. The question is – Which of your friend will you value more, “the criticizer”
or “The Extoller” and why? I will provide the answer to you in the coming article.

Fulcrums of variance

What if you knew already about your rights and your duties? What if you were in advance aware
of the principle on which all of the universes, at least yourself should be working? The world
would suddenly appear a better and less confusing to live in, right?
Sometimes it happens that our relatives help us getting a good job and a good career. And we
end up thinking that they did a favor that needs to be repaid. Is this your thinking too? Are you
into such clutches set forth by those witty fellow beings? Well, I would say you should never end
up thinking like this, for the assistance they provided is instead their responsibility. Now, this
may sound indifferent, but that is what makes all the difference. Take, for example, your parents
do everything to give you a good education and life. Now providing education is their duty that
they are fulfilling and that is your basic right. Sometimes we even end up thinking this in an
opposite manner. We are made to think that the education our parents imparted us was never
their duty, they did a favor on us. I will say this very thinking of yours is a rebuttal of the basic
natural laws. As a parent, it becomes their duty to impart their child basic education. And it
becomes our duty to help them through their advanced years, the way they helped us during our
childhood.
We all call our governments to provide for our basic needs and the same way it is the duty of the
governors of our family to provide us education. Governors do not only include parents but our
all the relatives. Thus it becomes their duty to assist us the way they can and believe me in
getting the help you are not getting burdened with favors. You can never be.
If a person you know, maybe your relative, your friend or say an acquaintance, is at a position
that they can help you aggrandize you, then they, by all means, should do that. That is their duty
and it your right. the problem is we are made to think in an antagonistic way to this fact.
We talk of nepotism, but I tell you nepotism doesn’t work well for the undeserving. If you are
deserving, you will be granted favor by the Gods themselves and if you are not, you will
surely find that for yourself.
The world needs to take a deep breath and you are the world. You need not believe whatever they
may say. You can have your own reasons for anything and everything. This is again your basic
right and it is the duty of the world to provide you some slack on that. Because this is where you
are relieved of so many times in life you get free to think, speak and act. You can fly into the world
of possibilities that await your flap and that you can do when you are away from all worldly
nuisance and that is the point of all the positive change that you can bring in your life. That is
where all the difference is made. That is the fulcrum of all variance.